Keeping a relationship as a former incel, passing and failing shit tests, meditation on the emotional pain on losing the relationship

31 01 2017

I realize that on many incel forum online discussions people often talk about getting the relationship. However; few speak of keeping the relationship and dealing with the emotional pain of losing the relationship some incels spent a lifetime to finally obtain.

For the non-cel, many of them have a life time of practice on passing shit tests by women since middle school. For the incel they do not. To the incel who finally obtained the relationship, on the emotional level he clearly needs her more than she needs him. The common mistakes the former-incel would make is that he will try to please her every whim and desire, and be overjoyed at her approval, which in turn he will ultimately lose her respect.

Other mistakes in today’s world of texting would involve becoming anxious when the woman does not respond to his text in time, narratives of her dumping him would run through his head. The fear and the paranoia of losing the relationship stress on his mind.

In today’s society, due to women’s unchecked hypergamous nature the idea that she will one day walk out on you on a whim or cheat on you with an individual like Mr. J, is an unfortunate reality.

Former incels should meditate on these unfortunate realities like the samurai who meditate on his own death in the most horrific ways in battle, or dying of disease. The former incel should meditate on the possibility of the cheating partner, being dumped, her walking out on him on a whim, being nexted for a hotter guy, being divorced and half of his money, etc. This is a necessary act in handling the emotional pain even the most experienced non-cel might succumb to.

“Every morning a warrior should recommit himself to death. In morning meditation, see yourself killed in various ways, such as being shredded by arrows, bullets, swords, and spears, being swept away by a tidal wave, burned by fire, struck by lightening, dying in a earthquake, falling from a great height, or succumbing to overwhelming sickness. An elder warrior said, “Once out of your front door you are surrounded by death. Once you leave your gate you are surrounded by enemies.” This saying is not merely a parable, but a way to prepare for your fate.” — Yamamoto Tsunetomo, Hagakure





My experiences vs the conventional stereotypes

7 11 2016

after reading the blog post by on why half Asians with white mother asian fathers seems to turn out better I started to think about some of my own personal experiences on “white only” Asian women, where sometimes reality and popular knowledge/stereotypes are often 180 degrees out of phase.

Stereotypes have positive image of Asian women for being feminine, nice and pleasant. Conversely the stereotype for black women is the complete opposite, where they are seen as vulgar, mean, and aggressive.However; my own personal experiences state the complete opposite. As from the blogger mentioned above, many Asian women prefer white men purely on a racial basis, they will get out of their way to hate on Asian men because they feel like they have something to prove, thus getting out of their way to be nasty as possible to Asian men. The women I have seen in their craziest, nastiest, and irrational states are Asian women(such as my stepmother after arguing with my father). In the reverse, my most pleasant experiences (in interactions with American women at least), the most laid back and the nicest people to hang out with, are black women.

My questions to Asian and Asian American men who reads this, I wonder if you guys have similar experiences?





Some thoughts on game culture

26 10 2015

The bible tells the parable of a wise builder who made foundation on stone which stood against the rain, whereas the builder who made foundation on sand cannot. Personal relationships works in the same way. as modern relationships are formed through game, which is based on seduction and deceit, as PUA gurus teach ways of tricking the woman(target) into falling in love with the individual the “gamer” pretends to be.

relationships built upon deceit are equivalent to building a foundation on sand thus cannot last, which is why “gamers” encourage the player life style of having short-term one night stands. However this creates instability of society for families breaking up. According to Robert E Rectors book of charts on divorce rate of women who have had multiple partners:

Age of first sexual experience (p.10):

>18: ~32-38%
17-18: 47%
15-16: 59%
13-14: 72%
<12: 82%

Number of prior sexual partners (p.18):

0: 20%
1: 46%
2-4: 56-60%
5-15: ~70%
16+: ~80%

as player culture becomes more prevalent the chances of having stable families becomes less likely. as commentor Franklin have stated, “the only individuals who can benefit from modern culture are sluts and players”. Indeed, when I first come to the USA from the old country, the greatest culture shock I found is that American kids care far more about hooking up than their academic pursuits, but in modern American culture they are completely correct, as it is far more advantageous to be a player on welfare than a hard working engineer to have your earnings taxed to feed the player and his illegitimate kids.

As feminism becomes prevalent where choices of partners are purely female choice, the mens need for validation from women to get sex drives them to learn game. Despite what they say on the outside, feminism and the game culture have a symbiotic relationship. Without feminism men do not need validation from women to find partner or sex, game would not be needed.

“Modern women are constantly being hit on by players, which is why they put up a bitch shield to discourage players from hitting on them. They are not to be blamed for this, as the entire culture is rotten to the core”- Franklin





How do you see Mr. J.

20 09 2014

about a former roommate I had, lets call him Mr. J. He is of Indian descent who used to own a Bollywood movie store. His is a notorious adulterer who would have sex with his female customers in the back room, many of whom are married, have boyfriends, and have kids. In turn because he is so good at sex he gains his reputation, those women he fucked would go and tell their friends and they come and fuck him and his influence grows. I know what he said is true as he has his encounters recorded on video. He would tell me about it and brag about his sexual performance, and show me the sex tapes he made. He is the guy who cheated with just about every single customer that came to his store. I am wondering, do you view Mr. J positively or negatively?





The Art of Whore

19 04 2014

The Art of Whore: Why Betas Marry Leftovers by Leap of a Beta” Originally Posted on May 21 at 12 AM as a gift to you from Professor Mentu

Bottom-feeding scum sucking Cory Catfish, thy name is beta.

Thank you for cleaning the algae and fecal remains of bigger, stronger, faster fish from the pond of society. You are the homeless guy I give my leftovers to, packaged in a glossy takeout box from a restaurant you could never afford. You, beta, are the malleable putty that fills the karmic gap between what she wants and what she deserves. If ever there was an exultant scavenger, a happy beggar, or a willful fool foraging through the rotting leftovers of discarded femdom like a soon-to-be-roadkill raccoon, it’s you. Thank you for your service.

  • A man with options would never put a ring on a anger that’s been wrapped around a dozen cocks.
  • A man with options would never pay the ultimate price of commit for a born again virgin fucktoy.
  • A man with options would never let his son’s first home be a womb that has seen more trafic than I-35 during rush hour.
  • A man with options would never allow the first kiss his newborn son receives to come from lips that have hosted lotsa cocka.
  • A man with options would never let his son’s first nourishment come from breasts that can be viewed on any number of cell phone cameras.
  • A man with options would never let his son’s first throne be the lap of a woman who has been passed around like a blunt at a frat party.
  • A man with options would never be a dickstand for a woman who squandered her youth and beauty on the men who respected her the least.
  • A man with options would never consider being the last man standing at the end of the long line of conquests she racked up while being the Grand Marshal of a rather impressive cock parade.

Do men with options pass up on whores because of religious ethics? Sometimes. Do men with options pass up on whores because a promiscuous lifestyle stunts a woman’s ability to bond with her husband and children?

I reckon. Do men with options avoid committing to whores because of social pride? I certainly hope so. But there’s one gloriously simple, easy to define and even easier to defend reason why men with options do not marry whores: They don’t have to.

Beta males have four primary deficits when it comes to making sound relationship decisions, which leads them to permanently settle down with Gangbang Barbie after the rest of us are done with her. The Art of Whore: Why Betas Marry Leftovers

1) Their inability to identify a whore/slut due to lack of experience.

Thanks to a lack of experience with women, betas believe that a whore is a filthy girl who will sleep with anybody. When their pea-sized brains conjure up the idea of a whore, they imagine a woman who stops a red light, sees a man waiting at a bus stop, and has an unbelievable urge to put the car in park and go bang him. Betas think a whore is a girl who goes out to the bar four nights per week and bangs four different men. Dead wrong.

With this deffnition of whore, it’s no wonder betas defend women – they never see a whore. But in reality, whores are selective. In fact, they’re probably the most selective women in the mating market.

The Art of Whore is displayed by women who harness their sexual power and unleash it with stunning accuracy on the men at the top of the social hierarchy – often in a serially monogamous fashion (with a few “mistakes” along the way for good measure).

Wake up, beta. That nice girl in your social group who has a different boyfriend every three or four months on average, has casual hookups on vacation, and has that “special friend” who keeps her warm at night between boyfriends is a two-bit worthless whore. “But wait, Mentu! Most girls do that these days!” Now you’re getting it. Walk with me.

Whore is not about a number; it’s about her decision-making abilities and the value she assigns to sexual congress. Women are the gatekeepers of sex, so the men she lets through the gates – regardless of how many or how few – tells you everything you need to know about her relationship value. I don’t care if she’s slept with 5 men or 50 men; her sexual past reveals her relationship worth and ability to make sound decisions.

Take for instance a healthy 28 year old woman. In my experience, your average American woman has had anywhere between 12 and 23 sexual partners by this time. Let’s call it an average of 17. A reasonable man would not assume that all 17 men dumped her, or that she dumped all 17; a myriad of reasons, situations, emotions and circumstances led her to this place. So what does this tell us?

It tells us that a number of men just had fun with her (promiscuity), she had to bounce a number of men after she opened her womb to them (bad decision making), and a number of men sampled a mini relationship with her for a while and decided not to keep her around (low value).

So, beta, which of those three traits – promiscuity, bad decision making, and low value – would you like to have instilled in your children? Which of those traits do you believe will make her an excellent wife? Which of these traits do you believe will not increase your likelihood of being cheated on or landing in divorce court? Can you see yourself waking up in the morning, rolling over, looking at her and thinking “Thank God I’ve committed to a worthless whore who has a 15 year long track record of making bad decisions?” Of course not. But this leads us to the 2nd primary defficit of the beta:

2) Their susceptibility to shaming language.

Betas cower in fear and quickly acquiesce when confronted with shaming language. “I’m not like that anymore”, “You can’t judge me”, and “A woman’s worth is not decided by her sexual past” seem to be the go-to responses for women who find themselves in the awkward situation of justifying why they’ve banged more men than can be comfortably seated in a small Family Diner.

For the record, the correct responses are “yes you are”, “yes I can”, and when it comes to marriage, “yes it is.” Does promiscuity make her a bad employee? Nope. Does it make her a bad friend? Nah. Does it make her an evil person who is likely to knock over a liquor store and steal a getaway car? Not at all.

Does a promiscuous past mean she can’t do good in the community and make profound societal contributions? Of course not. Does it make her a high-risk marriage partner and a shitty role model for your children in a society built around the family unit instead of the “it takes a village” approach?

According to the church, the Centers for Disease Control, your buddy who laughs at you behind your back, biological evidence, gender anthropologists, a growing number of psychologists, your own gut instincts, and yours truly, yes it most certainly does.

It always amazes me how betas will agree with a woman that her past education reveals her dedication to scholarly pursuits, her past work experience reveals her quest to improve her business acumen, her past payment history reveals her credit worthiness, her past workout routine reveals her desire for a healthy lifestyle, and her past volunteer efforts reveal her heart of gold, but her past sexual habits reveal absolutely nothing. That, my beta friend, is The Art of Whore.

If you buy in to that shit, you deserve whatever ill may befall you.

3) Their unnatural dedication to the female definition of “fairness.”

Here’s where the rubber meets the road for bottom-feeding beta males.

We’’ve all heard the statement “It’s not fair that a woman who sleeps around is a whore, but men who sleep around are studs.” There’s been more than enough digital ink spilled on this topic in the manosphere, so I won’t go in to it. Everybody knows it’s easy to be a whore, but hard to be a player – and society doesn’t award trophies for doing easy shit. It’s not a double standard; it’s two different standards for two different genders with two different barriers to sexual entry and two different sets of risk factors.

But forget that for a moment. For the sake of this article, let’s assume that the woman’s statement is true. That’s right, let’s assume for a moment that there is an unfair evil double standard afoot.

What the fuck do you care?

If you’re a beta male looking for marriage, it’s not your job to be fair – this is your life, not a general assembly at the UN. Your job is to and the best mother for your children that you possibly can.

It doesn’t matter if you banged 5,000 women on camera last night; you need to and the most competent, capable, qualifed, trustworthy, physically and emotionally stable woman you possibly can to help raise your children.

Let her worry about your past and whether or not she thinks you’re qualifed to be their father, and you focus on her qualifcations.

Come to think of it, that’s actually quite fair, wouldn’t you say?

4) Their lack of options.

When it comes to liaising with whores, Alphas are volunteers, and betas are voluntolds. The Art of Whore is not lost on the Alpha male – they volunteer to use them for what they’re good for, then pass them of to betas who are voluntold to put a ring on their anger.

Beta, your lack of options is making you weak, distorting your judgment, and may eventually land your pansy ass in divorce court. The Art of Whore is real, and women work to better their craft every day. What have you done lately besides make excuses for her?

Women proficient in The Art of Whore get what they want: A decade-long ride on the cock carousel with no consequences, then a willing hapless beta with open arms, an open mind, and an open wallet to cushion their landing and finance their recovery.

As long as you’re standing there ready, willing and able, I honestly can’t say that I blame them for taking you up on your generous offer.

This entry was posted in The Empty Halls of University of Man and tagged Masculine Frame, Shame the Beta.





end of summer update… news and more rants

3 09 2013

end of summer 2013

Much has happened over the course of the summer, living now in a new place. Just less than a year ago I struggled to run just 1 mile, now I ran 3 5ks and a half marathon over last few months. When I eased into the cardio I felt like I can run forever, leaving behind the troubles of the world and life. I had to put a new hole in my belt as my waist size went down. Similarly, my luck has changed slightly in the realm of online dating, as I am getting replies now from girls, and scored a few dates which almost never happened before. Improvement in my chances with women has a direct relationship with my change in looks, anyone that says anything else is in denial.

Recently I came back in contact with an old acquaintance from college, who is an ethnic(Bengali). Needless to say, he struggles in the realm of dating himself. His problem, however, lies with his shyness. As he says to me,”I have had one night stands before, but its always the women who approached me,  not when I am being forward.” Little does he know that in the realm of modern dating, it is always the women that chooses, not men. The very fact he obtain one night stands, I realized that his problem is far easier to solve than my own, as I can’t get one night stands.

Multiple times we had our conversation drift to the pick up artist culture, and he tried to convince me in joining local PUA groups. I don’t believe in PUA for most PUAs will deny the obvious truth: looks matter. However; after some careful thinking I had to admit that PUA might actually work for him, since he can pass the look test due to his one night stands, where I can’t. He simply needs to overcome his shyness, a step I already done.

My friend here reminded me of myself few years ago as I actually looked into PUA for guidance, but I saw the flaw in it right away. As stated before, PUAs perpetuates that common knowledge tells us that MEN are the shallower of the sexes, women are not as visual. However; common knowledge is almost always 180 degrees out of phase with reality. We receive 90% of all our information through our eyes, thus we, as a species, are EVOLVED to be visual. Though women SAY physically attractiveness matter less to them, their ACTIONS are no more different than that of men. In fact, women are far more intuitive and have social smarts. THEY KNOW WHAT YOU ARE TRYING TO DO, YOU DUMB ASS! Its either she feels that way about you or she doesn’t. PUAs tries to break this interaction into an objective formula, telling you that you just need to say this, then say that, and TRICK the girl into liking you/going to bed with you by some magic words, is complete ludicrous





interest videos and another blog

8 05 2013

I have found 2 videos and another blog that speak of the same issue I have been saying on this blog, but stated/written better. Enjoy:

Blog:

http://aestheticguide.blogspot.com

Videos:

 

 








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