I didn’t know there are so many black TFL youtubers

12 12 2017

I recently came across a youtube channel here that has a collection of uploads from black TFLer (stands for “True Forced Loneliness”, a youtube term for incels). I was very much surprised as from stereotypes they are the pimps, the stylish and suave rappers who are smooth talkers to women i.e. natural seducers. Aren’t many white women(both American/Canadian as well as European) fetishize black men the same way Asian women fetishize white men?

Many of these brothas complain how sistaz have attitude and unrealistic standards yet in my own experience I had good experiences with black women. Its the Asian women who has the attitude, as they only fuck white guys and they feel like they have something to prove.

Wow, this is some surreal shit right here. I would think there are more Asian youtubers who complains about being TFL(unless they are less likely to speak up about it) but all you can find are channels like Ling Anderson who just claim that Asian men should just either turn gay or become trans.

Here are some sample vids by Oreo Man:

and Baraka Mkray:


Stefan Molyneux is completely right…

20 11 2017

True enough, America is the Roman Empire of modern day. I have no incentive to defend a society that tramples me into the ground. I pray to the good lord each day for its inevitable demise. I am ready to cheer as it burns

“failure” of Eastern values in western culture

22 04 2014

It is not a mystery that Asian/Indian men in the west struggle the most in modern dating, and I do not think it is a coincidence that Asian/Indian men are also over-represented in high education particularly in the STEM fields.

It seems obvious to me, that those Asian/Indian men who did not struggle in the west, are typically adopted or completely westernized (twinkie/banana). Those who came from traditional families typically have to go AGAINST what their parents tell them to find sexual success. The more the son obeyed the traditionalist parents, the less successful with women they are(unless they are physically attractive enough to stand out)

the asian logic of study hard in STEM field, get a good job, make money, then women will be naturally attracted to you does not work in the west as due to feminism, women no longer depend on men for economic reliance, as they can depend on the state to provide while they fuck bad boys. Men are no longer valued on there providing abilities.

The typical obedient Asian kid would be spending time studying Chemistry, physics, and calculus, preparing for their SATs and AP exams while his peers are getting high with friends, trying out for the track team, deciding who to ask for a date to the school dance, or who to hook up with after school.

According to Dr. Brian G Gilmartin, Skills with the opposite sex takes a life time to accumulate. if you did not accumulate the skills early in life it is less likely for you to obtain skill later.

are Asian parents wrong to bring their values here? Are the twinkies/bananas right to rebel?


a disturbing question: does personality actually matter?

22 02 2013

I just have to ask this disturbing question here. Often times in the media and common knowledge we often discuss “do looks matter”, knowing full well is does. Why, then, not many people ask the opposite question, “Does personality actually matter”? According to a frequent commenter on this blog, Franklin, stated that BOTH looks and personality matters in the realm of modern dating. However, the successful men in the dating game are the narcissistic, Machiavellian, and aggressive bad boys.

However, on the love-shy forums, NewHope stated that he personally  know upstanding respectable guys who does very well with women, because they are good looking as well.

In my previous post, NewHope stated that people who scores high on physical attractiveness has great power, and power corrupts. Which is why attractive people tend to be “jerks”. As many women complain,”nice guys are ugly, hot guys are jerks, hot nice guys are gay” is very true indeed.

So what exactly is the cause and effect here? Is being an asshole make you attractive to women OR hot guys can AFFORD to be asshole because they are good looking (bad boy behavior is the result of being physically attractive)

That bring me to the disturbing question on the blog:”does your personality matter in the end?”


weight loss update, personal update, second chance, more rants

7 12 2012







Dec Photo

this is me as of 12/07/20012

my weight is now 196 lb, I have experienced drastic improvement in cardio, and I have physically more powerful than before as shown in my pad work and bag work. my waist size have drastically decreased as now I can fit well into medium size shirts and fleece pants. I did not measure myself but before (4 years ago) I would struggle to fit even in large size clothing.

Bad news now is that the start up company I am working for has laid me off due to finance issues. I am out of work, but in the upcoming spring I have been accepted to graduate school in my alma mater(my undergraduate school) and I will be continuing my graduate studies next year. Unfortunately, the school is all the way across the country and I have to move again. Even though graduate school will be very busy and brutal, I will not stop working out and I have taken up running daily.

When I graduated college, I originally planned to go for a PhD degree right away, hoping to find someone in graduate school. But due to my weakness, lack of experience, lack of finances, and some unrequited lust I left graduate school for the industry, using the money I earned to frequent high class legal brothels. This is my second chance to maybe achieve both.

I am surprise, though, at how a lot of people seemed to be against the idea of changing myself. Look at the discussion which I posted on reddit about this blog. I only hope TheSpooneh takes my advice and hit the gym. He claims to have caucasian women chasing after him, and yet she is in a situation where she cannot see him often. If he really read my posts and took NewHope’s advice, he should realized that if a woman is really into you, she will NOT miss her chances with you. She would rearrange her schedule just to see him. If she is not attracted to him physically, then she must be using him for money or “hidden advantages”, nothing more. I suspect the woman is actually banging someone else behind as back and wise up. As for shakeDown, lets just say the best attitude, will NEVER be as sexy as 6-pack abs. All the little things you have you watch out for what you lack in physical attractiveness, is simply NOT worth it.

Similarly, a while ago I had a conversation with a Christian pastor who is also opposed to the idea of changing myself. “Don’t will so hard to become an extrovert as it is not the way God made you”. Ooookay, so explain to me, how is going back to being a shy, reclusive, chubby, introvert going to help me?

Can you believe the type of counter productive advice they give? They  claim that I was wrong to work out so hard because its not about looks. So what? I should continue being fat? I tried to believe its your confidence and attitude that would give me the success. I really did, because I know looks is something I don’t have. But I did in fact observed the real world, I realized the clear reason why the pretty girl is holding the fit and handsome guy’s hand, and not mine. I probably had the ability to provide for her better than the guy she’s with, but I did NOT have the looks to attract.

God did not make me an extrovert so I should continue being reclusive. Willing to make changes in my life is apparently wrong and want me to continue being as I was. BEING THE WAY I WAS, IS THE REASON WHY I AM INCEL! They want me to sit and wait and wait for a miracle, but I am wise enough to realize I have to take action.


the global rise of the bitch and cad culture, decent men are fucked unless you got the looks, from the incel’s point of view

22 11 2012

After reading a thoughtful and somewhat controversial blog post by Indomitable Thoughts and the usual brilliant reply by fschmidt, it stirred up a lot of memories. I agree with what they say about the contemporary hook up culture and nightlife, certain ideas by fschmidt did not work in my case.

Years ago when I was still going to college, before I decide to will myself to become social and get in shape, I was the reclusive introvert who spent most of my time in my dorm, studying, chatting with people online, playing video games, and my favorite activity: jacking off to fantasies. I deliberately avoided the superficial party and club scene because I felt the same way as Indomitable Thoughts on contemporary culture. Then again, because of this, I left a 60% female school  without a kiss after 5 years of being there. If I wasn’t Asian and I was better looking, maybe things might play out differently.

A few weeks for my graduation, this realization has hit me hard. I knew finding someone who would be into short chubby Asian guys like myself would not be likely. I asked my family to set me up with girls they knew. They set me up with two of them, who came to this country as students from the old country(my home city actually). It turns out the first girl said she’s not looking for anyone since she already dating someone (A Caucasian male of course), immediately I was friendzoned and she would sometimes chat and call me up to help her with her computer problems. The second girl was a real piece of work. Again we chatted online and talked on the phone a bit. When the school year started and she came to this country, I asked her if she want to meet up. I called her up once for a chat she was way too eager to excuse herself and hang up. She was obviously not into me.

Similarly, I met another Asian girl on Match.com (I was actually surprised I scored a date), and my experiences with her was the same. She even told me she felt stressful around me(a common sign for lack of physical attraction)

Think about it, my fellow nerds, why would a girl be too busy for a hot guy? If a girl is into you, she will climb mountains and cross oceans to get to you. If she is not into you, she will not care if you die in front of her. Like NewHope once said, most men never had women that attracted to them, so they wouldn’t know. All three girls I spoke of, are from a non-feminist country with conservative religious backgrounds, as all three go to Christian churches. Two of the three rejected me probably due to looks. None of them are the nightclub type, all of them new to the country, from a vastly different culture, and they rejected me just the same. I was not reject because I lack the ability to provide as I have a stable job. Its the dreaded L word that haunted me. I used to buy into the popular wisdom that its your attitude and personality that matters. I sincerely wanted to believe that because I knew looks is something I don’t have.

I knew now I have to make the effort to change, being a chubby reclusive introvert will NOT get me out of this. The nightlife/club culture is more global than most of your think. Today at me age of 27 most “decent women” have already settled down. Thus for me to actually find someone, it means I have to pick the left overs, the “slut” that’s been with a few men already, or a younger widow/divorcee. If the “bitch” tells me to fuck off, I will be incel again.

Becoming a Cad is the only option left for me. I am putting NewHope’s advice to the test. See how I do when I get a better fashion sense and NOT obese


Being Asian in America, later generation Asian Americans, the dating scene and the media

19 11 2012

It is only a matter of time before I write something like this I figure now is as good of a time as any. It always amazes me to no end the level of aggression Asians and Asian Americans have on each other in ethnic rivalry and hatred, but all falls into a deafening silence when it comes to social injustice here in the west. Most Asians believe racism against Asians is okay as long as its not directed at their ethnicity, and would probably join in. “Who are you calling a chink, I am Japanese”

It is no doubt that here in America the Asian Male is demonized, ridiculed, and unsexed. The typical Asian you see in America are usually Asian women paired with Caucasian men. the WM/AF interracial marriage is the most common on the planet. The typical Hollywood movie would always have the formula of White man goes to Asian -> white man defeats the Asian male villain -> white man gets the Asian girl. Presence of Asian males in the media is limited, usually portrayed as either effeminate or gay. Bruce Lee could not become successful in America until he returned to Hong Kong. When an Asian male is depicted as sexual, there is usually an outcry. In the film “Romeo Must Die”, a scene where Jet Li kisses Aaliyah was cut out to avoid such reaction. The iconic Asian male in American media is that of William Hung and Ken Jeong.

I read from statistics that Asian American population growth is mainly result of immigration, not sustained natively. That fact disturbed me, but didn’t particularly surprise me. Today almost 50% of Asian women in America are married (not counting dating and hooking up) to Caucasian men (not counting those that dates black and latin men). This indirectly states that more than 50% of Asian men in America are perpetually single (lets be honest about the possibility of Asian men dating outside of their race). The earlier laws of America did not intend for Asians to prosper in this country, from the mistreatment of Chinese railroad workers, Japanese American internment camps, and the Chinese Exclusion act in 1882, which outlawed the Chinese workers marrying Caucasian women (under the threat of stripping the woman of citizenship) and Chinese women were not allowed in the country unless they are prostitutes. Many of these Chinese workers married black and Native american women instead (back then Native Americans are not citizens). I have also noticed the dwindling number of Japanese Americans by the generation as well.

In the 70, 80s  and 90s, many Chinese communities in the east coast cities face a lot of harassment and persecution. The older generation invited martial arts masters from the old country to come here to protect the community, and teach the younger generation how to fight and defend themselves. The Asian Americans of older generation have persevered through hardship, but the downfall of the Asian community lies with the sell out women. If you google black or latin women, you will receive respectable sites like jobs and activism. Google asian women you will get sites like porn, or pseudo pick up artist forums where guys saying how easy asian women are, they will fuck anyone white. disturbingly, they are not that far from the truth.
Women do the choosing on the scene, and for unknown reasons most Asian women here in this country (both FOBs and American born) prefer Caucasian men (had she preferred asian men she would have stayed in Asia). Many claim that is because most Asian cultures are misogynist and chauvinistic, then why aren’t women from Muslim countries flooding to arms of whitey? I heard in Japan the women pack the buses to G.I. bars, offering sex for free. The stereotype says women are less desiring of sex, which is bs because, according to NewHope, “you would be surprised how sexually aggressive women are if she is really into you, but most men did not experience that because they are not in the 10% attractive population”.  I would guess the Caucasoid features of the blond hair and blue eyes is considered exotic, thus the Caucasian man would make a good trophy boyfriend.

I experienced this personally, at a party/event in a piano bar in Denver once. The people are mostly Caucasian, I tried to strike up a casual conversation with the only other Asian girl there, despite her being chatty to white guys at the event, her attitude to me is completely opposite. Just one word answers and always trying to excuse herself when I was trying to talk to her. It is quite obvious that we had the same ethnic background, and being the only two Asian people in the party, she had no intention of interacting with me. A few months later, I saw the same girl again among the spectators in a martial arts tournament I competed in. Lo and behold she is with a Caucasian guy, but I was the one who walked home with the medal and trophy (I won men’s sparring division)

In order for the Asian American population to sustain itself, we must break the barriers of ethnic, cultural, and religious differences. I would advocate the intermarriage and mixing of inter-asian cultures in order to create a stronger Pan Asian community, and a new AMERICAN identity. At the same time we must discourage, ostracize and punish the whore that sell out (even though it is so normal now)


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