What would you have done?

26 01 2017

Hey, you think the chick should run away with the thug instead? a clear display of the badboy/nice guy dichotomy here.





My father is right in retrospect, Franklin might be wrong in some cases, some thoughts…

22 06 2014

As stated before coming from a first generation Asian American background, the older generation seldom want to hear what us younger generation has to say. In regards to man incel problems that plague the Asian/Indian men community in the west, my father gave the typical answer I expect him to say: “as long as you have money you can do everything you please, as long as you make money all your problems are solvable.” What he fail to answer is that incels in the west typically have an aptitude for math and science, many of us work in the field of Engineering(such as the indian roomate of 3rd world hero) so money isn’t a problem then why is it that the same decent men who make money remain incel?

 

In retrospect, after some analysis of what Franklin said and what my father said, they are indeed still correct. The major difference between the choosing criteria of women in Feminist vs Non-Feminist countries, is their sexual promiscuity. Women in feminist countries tend to value looks and swagger at young age thus will ride the cock carousel with the tall muscular jockeys and the handsome badboys. After they get pumped and dumped when they are older they will start to value men with money more. At the same time the women from non-feminist societies will value men with money from the beginning, and they will not ride the cock-carousel of handsome bad boys.

 

Such choosing criteria can be seen in Asian women, where they will typically look for men that DOESN’T have masculine qualities but at the same time HAVE money (the effeminate rich man) so they can manipulate those men and use them for their money. Essentially they will value money from the effeminate man (long term) above the hot sex with the jockey (short term), where as their western counter part will choose the complete opposite.

 

As any reasonable individual can see, money is important in both feminist and non-feminist countries. The bad news here, is that there are selective few incels who are in non-STEM fields, and would less likely to have money, thus making them bad choice for mates even in non-feminist countries. Franklin advocate incels to go abroad as most incels have money due to their aptitude in math and science, it does not work for incels that don’t excel in those areas. 





“failure” of Eastern values in western culture

22 04 2014

It is not a mystery that Asian/Indian men in the west struggle the most in modern dating, and I do not think it is a coincidence that Asian/Indian men are also over-represented in high education particularly in the STEM fields.

It seems obvious to me, that those Asian/Indian men who did not struggle in the west, are typically adopted or completely westernized (twinkie/banana). Those who came from traditional families typically have to go AGAINST what their parents tell them to find sexual success. The more the son obeyed the traditionalist parents, the less successful with women they are(unless they are physically attractive enough to stand out)

the asian logic of study hard in STEM field, get a good job, make money, then women will be naturally attracted to you does not work in the west as due to feminism, women no longer depend on men for economic reliance, as they can depend on the state to provide while they fuck bad boys. Men are no longer valued on there providing abilities.

The typical obedient Asian kid would be spending time studying Chemistry, physics, and calculus, preparing for their SATs and AP exams while his peers are getting high with friends, trying out for the track team, deciding who to ask for a date to the school dance, or who to hook up with after school.

According to Dr. Brian G Gilmartin, Skills with the opposite sex takes a life time to accumulate. if you did not accumulate the skills early in life it is less likely for you to obtain skill later.

are Asian parents wrong to bring their values here? Are the twinkies/bananas right to rebel?





The Asian masculinity Subreddit

21 02 2014

http://www.reddit.com/r/asianmasculinity

recently I have discovered a subreddit thats focused on the discussion of issues of masculinity and men issues amongst asian americans, where it is described as “the only subreddit that focus on issues of Asian men, by Asian men, thats not moderated by feminist sell-out Asian women fucking white men.” While I am glad more Asian men are waking up to the red-pill reality, and I am also glad to see that the last bastion of Asian masculinity did not die with Chingis Khan and Bruce Lee, I am still disturbed by certain issues.

Typical stories from the subreddit, akin to the Model Minority forum , focus on the anger towards the disproportional ratio of sell out Asian women going after white men, how hollywood racist media unsex the Asian male, then came the talks on “gaming women” that differs very little from the discussions of PUAs. Typical story follows this type of structure:

I am raised by traditional Asian parents to be a wimpy, scrawny, math nerd with aspergers that plays violin, then through years of incel through high school and college I was shy and did not have the courage to talk to girls, then I woke up to reality and started to lift weights, after gaining muscles I learned to game women, etc.

They have missed the core of the single problem that plagues the Asian community in the west: When Asian values collide with western culture, there will only be incel men and sell out women in our community.

As I have posted before, it is NOT a coincidence that Asians take up Ivy League schools even with affirmative action working against them, where we excel in the topic of math, science, and engineering, we are also the group that struggles the most on the dating scene. What can you expect of a group of scrawny math nerds taught by their parents to be the model minority and the provider, living in a culture of casual sex and hook ups which clearly favors the muscular jockey, and the thugs with 6 pack abs?

Some of their criticism of Asian culture is very valid(emphasis on academic pursuits instead of  physical fitness, lacking of masculine quality in young asian men because they are raised mostly by their mothers, etc.) perhaps those guys need to stop and think:

why is it that mathematicians, engineers, and scientists need to learn “game” to be successful with women, while the thug that murdered people by the gun, knife, and bare hands then dealt drugs, don’t have to do any of that BS to get harems of women? Perhaps western society is sick and deprived?





A question concerning modern dating is asked.

15 02 2014

I am wondering what you guys think:

Why is it that a lot of women who put up with physical and emotional abuse from bad boys have no trouble telling nice guy off for the slightest transgression?

Response from a woman:

With the ‘bad boy’ she is operating within a dysfunctional family dynamic — generally such a woman will have learned patterns of abusive relationships within her upbringing.  This would most likely be how she has observed her father treating her mother and girls within the family.  She will feel comfortable with this sort of behaviour, as bad as it might be.  It is what she knows and her ordinary systems of coping (numbing out or compartmentalising are examples) will click into place whenever it happens.

As crazy as it might seem, a ‘nice’ guy treating this woman well with cause her to feel distressed and panicky.  She does not have any emotional mechanisms for handling him.  She might be thinking: ‘If I trust him, will he hurt me when I let down my guard?  I better not let him see my vulnerability; I’ll attack him before he hurts me.” 

Being able to trust someone when your life experience tells you that this is dangerous is daunting.  A man dating this sort of woman needs to be patient and tolerate (to a point) her bad behaviour.  By not reacting to it she will eventually realise that he is not like the problem man in her upbringing.  She will start to let down her guard — well, hopefully she will.  It depends on the degree of her insecurity.  Undoing abusive situations is complex and can take years.

Be compassionate towards her.  She is reacting to a bad history, not the nice guy.  The reason why she can lash out in the west is because women’s rights are much stronger than in the developing world.  She feels safer to act out towards a man.

In a more conservative society women will suppress expressions of anger because it is too dangerous to do otherwise (bad things, all the way to murder, happen in retailiation to a woman’s anger in places like India). If a man in the West did such a thing he will be censored and legal action taken.





Resolving two conflicting philosophies

8 09 2013

Those of you who read this blog will probably notice there are two individuals I would often listen to: NewHope and Franklin. Both of them agree on some, such as the destructive nature of modern culture and feminism, but they disagree more.

According to Franklin, both personality AND looks matter. However; in modern dating, he leans more towards personality. He believes that women by nature are attracted to badboy personalities, so her son would also be badboys and spread her genes more. He said that modern dating often find psychotic behavior desirable, and those who possess it are successful on the sexual market. However; the more intelligent of the bad boys uses contraceptives, where as the stupid ones don’t. Thus, many of the future generation are offsprings of “stupid bad-boys” , since they have the highest chances of reproduction.

NewHope, on the other hand, claimed,”oh man oh man I have never believed the saying assholes get the girl. Nice guys don’t finish last, most nice guys have aesthetics issues that CAUSES them to finish last. Handsome nice guy beats the ugly bad boy nine times out of ten any given day of the week, hand down.” He also claims,”when good looking men have options like women do, they start to act like women, but get to be called ‘asshole’ for it”. I.e.  the reason why women don’t like the nice guys, because they are just ugly and try to over compensate their lack of looks by being overly accommodating. Bad boy behavior is simply a result of being attractive physically. Hence the saying, “nice guys are ugly, hot guys are jerks, hot nice guys are gay”

oh my readers from PUAHate, which philosophy do you agree with more? why? comments?





a disturbing question: does personality actually matter?

22 02 2013

I just have to ask this disturbing question here. Often times in the media and common knowledge we often discuss “do looks matter”, knowing full well is does. Why, then, not many people ask the opposite question, “Does personality actually matter”? According to a frequent commenter on this blog, Franklin, stated that BOTH looks and personality matters in the realm of modern dating. However, the successful men in the dating game are the narcissistic, Machiavellian, and aggressive bad boys.

However, on the love-shy forums, NewHope stated that he personally  know upstanding respectable guys who does very well with women, because they are good looking as well.

In my previous post, NewHope stated that people who scores high on physical attractiveness has great power, and power corrupts. Which is why attractive people tend to be “jerks”. As many women complain,”nice guys are ugly, hot guys are jerks, hot nice guys are gay” is very true indeed.

So what exactly is the cause and effect here? Is being an asshole make you attractive to women OR hot guys can AFFORD to be asshole because they are good looking (bad boy behavior is the result of being physically attractive)

That bring me to the disturbing question on the blog:”does your personality matter in the end?”








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