Keeping a relationship as a former incel, passing and failing shit tests, meditation on the emotional pain on losing the relationship

31 01 2017

I realize that on many incel forum online discussions people often talk about getting the relationship. However; few speak of keeping the relationship and dealing with the emotional pain of losing the relationship some incels spent a lifetime to finally obtain.

For the non-cel, many of them have a life time of practice on passing shit tests by women since middle school. For the incel they do not. To the incel who finally obtained the relationship, on the emotional level he clearly needs her more than she needs him. The common mistakes the former-incel would make is that he will try to please her every whim and desire, and be overjoyed at her approval, which in turn he will ultimately lose her respect.

Other mistakes in today’s world of texting would involve becoming anxious when the woman does not respond to his text in time, narratives of her dumping him would run through his head. The fear and the paranoia of losing the relationship stress on his mind.

In today’s society, due to women’s unchecked hypergamous nature the idea that she will one day walk out on you on a whim or cheat on you with an individual like Mr. J, is an unfortunate reality.

Former incels should meditate on these unfortunate realities like the samurai who meditate on his own death in the most horrific ways in battle, or dying of disease. The former incel should meditate on the possibility of the cheating partner, being dumped, her walking out on him on a whim, being nexted for a hotter guy, being divorced and half of his money, etc. This is a necessary act in handling the emotional pain even the most experienced non-cel might succumb to.

“Every morning a warrior should recommit himself to death. In morning meditation, see yourself killed in various ways, such as being shredded by arrows, bullets, swords, and spears, being swept away by a tidal wave, burned by fire, struck by lightening, dying in a earthquake, falling from a great height, or succumbing to overwhelming sickness. An elder warrior said, “Once out of your front door you are surrounded by death. Once you leave your gate you are surrounded by enemies.” This saying is not merely a parable, but a way to prepare for your fate.” — Yamamoto Tsunetomo, Hagakure





Interesting Reddit post by an English-Indian man

21 11 2016




Another Interesting Video…

20 02 2016





High times in Mexico

15 06 2015

Here in the USA validation from women has become one of the most prized treasure as men, because validation from women allows men to obtain something that is rarely obtained by the average man: sex.

My experiences in the red light district of a mexican city, in a country where prostitution is readily available and legal, sex is a commodity that can be bought and sold like anything else, not a priceless treasure as many Americans tend to believe. I do not need validation from women to get sex. Advice to those American men who are looking for sex outside of marriage, seek out legal prostitutes in Mexico is a far better option, as they are cheaper and physically more attractive than Americans.





a repost from another forum:”Human existence is a truth tragedy”

9 10 2014

Many posters on this forum see that females can get sex easily, so it is a natural assumption that they have all the power because they hold all the cards, i.e. females have a huge number of sexual options… But in my experience, that is actually not the case at all: the more attractive a female is, the more exclusive her social circle — her expectations and “requirements” for a mate increase dramatically, even astronomically… It is Hypergamy taken to the extreme. This kind of Hypergamy among highly attractive females means very few men actually make the cut: since this beautiful girl would only consider fucking the most desirable 5% or 10% of males, an individual male within this 5% or 10% is very valuable because he is very rare.

Men in who find themselves among the most desirable 5% are less particular and “exclusive” than their female counterparts. Unlike most men, they might not fuck “anybody,” who is willing, instead restricting themselves to the top 30% of females, but 30% is still much larger than the 5% of males a beautiful girl will be willing to fuck…

This is the only way I am able to explain situations where a beautiful girl continues following around, forgiving, and remaining faithful to a highly desirable male, even though the male sometimes cheats or otherwise disrespects the girl. And I have seen this kind of situation in real life MANY TIMES… I have known many beautiful girls, and they are not always treated as princesses by their boyfriends: often the boyfriend is clearly in the driver’s seat, and seems to have the advantaged position in the relationship, even though the girl is incredibly beautiful… Again, this is because highly desirable males (by hypergamous beautiful girl standards) are exceptionally rare and cannot be easily replaced by a partner of equal “value.”

Sometimes, during particularly harsh episodes of depression, I DID wish that all girls were insatiable, disloyal whores, because that would mean that highly desirable men could fuck them BUT never really win their hearts… and if I never found a supermodel as a wife, at least I would not be missing out because true loyalty is not really possible from women. The idea that all women are whores may be a comforting thought sometimes, but this is planet Earth, and the truth is often the most depressing of all possibilities… In this case, the truth is that only the top 10% most desirable men are considered “worthy” of love and monogamy by many females.

To men within this 10%, women appear loving, loyal, monogamous, and obsessively possessive.

To men outside of this 10%,, women seem like evil, disloyal whores who will never truly love anybody but themselves…

Human existence is truly a tragedy: Not because love and loyalty don’t exist, but because love and loyalty DO EXIST, but many humans will never encounter them… Only the fortunate, beautiful few…





More on infidelity…

23 09 2014

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Though as involuntary celibates, adultery of course don’t apply to us, but many incels online are also vocal about speaking against adultery. Is is because former incels would most likely be victims of adultery? If you are reading this and you are incel, please leave a comment about your attitude towards adultery. In the poll, when I ask if you are against adultery I mean either should there be laws against adultery and/or society should shame it.

I have asked people in real life about the actions of Mr. J  from the previous post and some individuals viewed it negatively but others changed the opinions to “no comment”. My roommate whom I work with says its more the fault of the woman than the man’s actions (despite knowing full well the woman’s married). He even goes as far as to say hypothetically he would fuck my wife if my wife wants to fuck him, and he would expect me to fuck his wife if his wife want to fuck me, even though he’s not okay with it. He goes farther to claim that Mr. J has done nothing wrong it is the fault of the people in the marriage, the same exact answer I would get from the commenter Mongo/Alberto.

It kind of made me sick to my stomach and want to physically vomit after knowing how people in general are okay or even neutral towards what Mr.J does. I am curious about what readers of the blog feel about adultery and what is your sexual background(noncel, incel, or former incel)





How do you see Mr. J.

20 09 2014

about a former roommate I had, lets call him Mr. J. He is of Indian descent who used to own a Bollywood movie store. His is a notorious adulterer who would have sex with his female customers in the back room, many of whom are married, have boyfriends, and have kids. In turn because he is so good at sex he gains his reputation, those women he fucked would go and tell their friends and they come and fuck him and his influence grows. I know what he said is true as he has his encounters recorded on video. He would tell me about it and brag about his sexual performance, and show me the sex tapes he made. He is the guy who cheated with just about every single customer that came to his store. I am wondering, do you view Mr. J positively or negatively?








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