Keeping a relationship as a former incel, passing and failing shit tests, meditation on the emotional pain on losing the relationship

31 01 2017

I realize that on many incel forum online discussions people often talk about getting the relationship. However; few speak of keeping the relationship and dealing with the emotional pain of losing the relationship some incels spent a lifetime to finally obtain.

For the non-cel, many of them have a life time of practice on passing shit tests by women since middle school. For the incel they do not. To the incel who finally obtained the relationship, on the emotional level he clearly needs her more than she needs him. The common mistakes the former-incel would make is that he will try to please her every whim and desire, and be overjoyed at her approval, which in turn he will ultimately lose her respect.

Other mistakes in today’s world of texting would involve becoming anxious when the woman does not respond to his text in time, narratives of her dumping him would run through his head. The fear and the paranoia of losing the relationship stress on his mind.

In today’s society, due to women’s unchecked hypergamous nature the idea that she will one day walk out on you on a whim or cheat on you with an individual like Mr. J, is an unfortunate reality.

Former incels should meditate on these unfortunate realities like the samurai who meditate on his own death in the most horrific ways in battle, or dying of disease. The former incel should meditate on the possibility of the cheating partner, being dumped, her walking out on him on a whim, being nexted for a hotter guy, being divorced and half of his money, etc. This is a necessary act in handling the emotional pain even the most experienced non-cel might succumb to.

“Every morning a warrior should recommit himself to death. In morning meditation, see yourself killed in various ways, such as being shredded by arrows, bullets, swords, and spears, being swept away by a tidal wave, burned by fire, struck by lightening, dying in a earthquake, falling from a great height, or succumbing to overwhelming sickness. An elder warrior said, “Once out of your front door you are surrounded by death. Once you leave your gate you are surrounded by enemies.” This saying is not merely a parable, but a way to prepare for your fate.” — Yamamoto Tsunetomo, Hagakure

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Qualities and lack of …

14 09 2014

If you have a lot of qualities from this list

1. extremely shy and introverted
2. socially awkward
3. bad fashion sense
4. ugly/deformed
5. out of shape, not athletic, skinny or fat, short
6. nerdy, obscure interests like Dnd, magic the gathering, start wars geek, star trek geek etc.
7. videogamer
8. weak, wimpy, cannot stand their ground in a confrontation, gets “blocked” and “shut down” in social situations
9. not a bad boy, too sensitive, lack masculine qualities, just don’t fit into the handsome badboy stereotype
10. affinity for math, science, and engineering
11. dead beat, poor, dead end job, going nowhere in life
12. too long of dry spell, did not have sex in a long time and now women don’t want to have anything to do with you. damaged goods
13. looking too ethnic, being east asian or indian in a western country.

and none of the qualities in this list

1. irresponsibility
2. tall, athletic, square jaw, muscular
3. have a criminal record (other than traffic violation)
4. prone to violence
5. insecure and goes out of his way to dominate and be assertive
6. extremely high confidence and self esteem (violent criminals have high self esteem)
7. ballin’ with money and expensive drugs (Cocaine)
8. interest in sports, follows the game
9. tend to start shit and prey on those who they deem weaker
10. have a good fashion sense, knows how to dress
11. smooth with lines, silver tongue, always knows what to say.
12. have a presence, first thing people notice when they enter the room

things should become very apparent.

 





Eliott Rodger and Aziz Shavershian, fool and the wise man

11 08 2014

The similarities between Rodger and Shavershian, at least for most their lives, is absolutely astonishing. Both individuals are the typical nerds, self proclaimed video game addicts, skinny, and social outcasts. Given similar conditions, we can see the obvious choices made by the wise man and the fool to completely different outcomes

http://omegavirginrevolt.wordpress.com/2014/06/01/the-dating-advice-industry-drove-elliot-rodger-insane/

It doesn’t take a genius to figure out, even for Rodgers, that most dating advice, PUA gurus, or what society tells him are complete BS. His few references to PUAHate is enough for us to see that he saw through the lies of the PUA industry, but even with the money and resources his family has, he could figure out the obvious solution to his problem. He cracked and went on a shooting spree like George Sodini, Jared Lee Loughner, James Eagan Holmes, and Cho Seung -Hui, all the incels that came before him. He went out shooting like all the other fools, and died like the way he lived: like a whiny little bitch. If you want sex, the state of Nevada is right next door. You got money, go get whores!

Aziz Shavershian took a very different path.

He saw through the truth in western society. He knew what was BS (character, personality) and what holds true (looks, money, status). He sold his World of Warcraft account for a gym membership. There were videos he made on youtube showing his progress. Of course there were haters calling him a “skinny faggot” and so on. But he ignored the haters and continued his training. Of course when his looks improved, he started to bang girls left and right. See, it wasn’t his looks that got him his fame as much as his philosophy. He even knew where to look for prostitutes in Thailand, and Rodger did not. Made me wonder if Rodger would take the same path as Shavershian, what would happen instead…

 





“failure” of Eastern values in western culture

22 04 2014

It is not a mystery that Asian/Indian men in the west struggle the most in modern dating, and I do not think it is a coincidence that Asian/Indian men are also over-represented in high education particularly in the STEM fields.

It seems obvious to me, that those Asian/Indian men who did not struggle in the west, are typically adopted or completely westernized (twinkie/banana). Those who came from traditional families typically have to go AGAINST what their parents tell them to find sexual success. The more the son obeyed the traditionalist parents, the less successful with women they are(unless they are physically attractive enough to stand out)

the asian logic of study hard in STEM field, get a good job, make money, then women will be naturally attracted to you does not work in the west as due to feminism, women no longer depend on men for economic reliance, as they can depend on the state to provide while they fuck bad boys. Men are no longer valued on there providing abilities.

The typical obedient Asian kid would be spending time studying Chemistry, physics, and calculus, preparing for their SATs and AP exams while his peers are getting high with friends, trying out for the track team, deciding who to ask for a date to the school dance, or who to hook up with after school.

According to Dr. Brian G Gilmartin, Skills with the opposite sex takes a life time to accumulate. if you did not accumulate the skills early in life it is less likely for you to obtain skill later.

are Asian parents wrong to bring their values here? Are the twinkies/bananas right to rebel?





Believable scenario?

28 03 2014

It has already been established that the American feminist society does not value decent men, where moral and intelligent men have the lowest sexual market value, do you guys see significant amount of moral decent men, particularly Asian/Indian Americans, expatriating? Will an “exodus” happen?





Are incel men actually a silent MAJORITY?

28 01 2014

on PUAHate and the loveshy forums, there are often arguments on what population of men are actually pure incel. Many claims the 80-20 rule, as women in our society are attracted to 20% of the best looking population of men, while the 80% either becomes the provider, learn to “game” or be incel.

According to the study on Love-shyness by Brian G. Gilmartin, 2% of the adult male population in the USA are virgin loveshies. That was in the 1980s when the study had been done. For the past few years I get to travel around the USA to many states from coast to coast, I seem to encounter many perpetual single men like myself everywhere I go. So my question is, the 80-20 correct? What do you guys think?

If I am the only incel on the planet, then I would say the problem is with me. But if I encounter incel men everywhere in all parts of this country, it shows that the problem isn’t with me, but the problem is with the fucked up western society.

However, if we are indeed a silent majority, why isn’t this a problem being addressed in the media?





some honest questions to Asian/Indian and Asian/Indian American parents on the value of your sons on the dating market…

22 11 2013

1. Today in the era of radical feminism, when men are no longer evaluated on their ability to provide, why do you push your sons to study like machines, creating a whole generation of math nerds with aspergers who play the violin but lack the basic social skills and even the courage to talk to girls?

2. Do you believe the physics professor on the Love-shy forum, or the Indian room mate of 3rdworldHero who is a senior level engineer that earns 100k a year and a kissless virgin, lacks success in the dating world because they lack the ability to provide?

3. What do you think of your over protective nature and the fact you never hear your son out in anything other than academic success, does to his confidence?

4. do you think it is a coincidence that we have the highest education and lowest crime rate, the men in our community are the least desired on the planet, and being the model minority actually make us LOSE respect?

5. do you think it is a coincidence that even with affirmative action acting against us, we are over-represented in the academia especially in the field of STEM, the men in our communities are also the group that struggles the most on the dating market.

6. are you aware of the value of your sons on the dating market?

7. How do you feel about the significant proportion of young men in our community flooding into the pick up artist culture?








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