“failure” of eastern values in the west, part II: The culture shock of adolescence

5 05 2014

When I first came to the USA from my home country, the first and foremost culture shock I experience is the emphasis of what my classmates in public school hold important vs. what I have been told is important by my teachers and family in the old country. I found it quite shocking yet puzzled by the attitude of my peers during High School, why are they focusing on chasing after girls and getting sex, when they should be preparing for college entrance exams? Don’t they know physics test is in 3 days?  Is hooking up that important and vital?  

Eastern Values:

  1. The score of your math exam
  2. how well you can write essays and papers
  3. academics topics you learn from your teachers
  4. how well prepared are you for college entrance exams
  5. how well you learn to speak and write english

What my American classmates value:

  1. Performance of the school sports team vs other schools
  2. friends you hang out with at lunch or after school
  3. cute popular guys and girls you hook up with between periods
  4. your image with the classmates, such as your fashion and trendy electronics

Favored conversation between the classmates in the old country: academic subjects

Favored conversation between the classmates in the USA: who’s hooking up with whom gossips

The reverse work the same way

Outcasts in the old country: Guys and girls who hook up in school instead of focusing on academic studies

Outcasts in the USA: Nerds who does nothing but focus on their SATs

Many blame the failure of our Educational system, but the core of the problem lies with the people and the culture. When you value who you hook up with far far above the topics of calculus, no wonder you score poorly on the math section of your SATs. Conversely the group of men that excels in the STEM fields in the academia, also have the lowest sexual market value, I seriously doubt by changing an educational “system”, the problems with youth education can be solved.




13 responses

11 05 2014

Fellow Asian male here. How do you define Incel? Would someone who has had sex with multiple escorts be considered an incel?

12 05 2014

of course. I only had paid sex

12 05 2014

What country do you go to? I am a complete virgin despite being a licensed physician.

13 05 2014

countries where feminism is not rampant and prostitution is legal. Latin American and Southeast Asia is what comes to mind. you should go see a prostitute as I did. whether you willing to do it or not is up to you

In feminist countries like USA, UK, Sweden, etc. you are evaluated on your looks and swagger. In non-feminst countries you are evaluated on the money you make.

17 05 2014

I sense progress.

17 05 2014

I always agreed with you on this

19 05 2014
P Ray

“100 Countries and Their Prostitution Policies”:

And if the reaction is to be a white-knight suckerman, read this and contribute an ORIGINAL argument please:
“Feminist arguments against prostitution debunked”:
I have been converted by the arguments of the antifeminists, that

the feminist movement’s main goal is to reduce male choice in female partners, to force men to dedicate their lives to unattractive, high spending, ruinously expensive feminist sex partners.

I add to this my hypothesis
The balance of power between men and women tilted in favor of women because
Men mostly stopped using physical & economical power,
women maintained their superior social manipulation power and thus,
world-wide, women are biasing laws totally in their favor in clear detriment of men

22 05 2014

What are your thoughts on the predicted 40 million extra Chinese men in China by 2020 of marriageable age? All those men who facing a life of loneliness in the face of the strong cultural urge to get married.

23 05 2014
P Ray

Looks like women better get used to either:
– competing with sexbots
– competing with cloning
– live in a postapocalyptic wasteland where “might makes right”
(Hey, maybe they want it that way – women are the ones choosing the violent men, so they may be seeking a violent life).

24 05 2014

take mail order brides from Eastern Europe, The Philipines and Vietnam. That type of business can cater to those men who will no doubt spend money on it. Just ask the average Shanghai man

24 05 2014
P Ray

Obv. as near to the age of consent as possible.
Reality is, farther away from that, likelihood of sluttiness or cockmongler-ing is quite high.
“Harmful Effects of Early Sexual Activity and Multiple Sexual Partners Among Women: A Book of Charts”

also read the dailymail article:
“How unrequited love can torture your soul for ever: Liz Hodgkinson reveals how her doomed obsession with the man who took her virginity still hurts after 50 years”
She married another guy, and then divorced him, and then went looking for the first guy that popped her cherry.
They call these types of women “alpha widows”, they’re the same type of women that were having sex with John F. Kennedy, while being married to other guys.

24 05 2014

my brother, my heart pains upon reading your blog. do not let this society control your body mind and soul through your genitalia. my brother.stay positive and keep improving yourself, keep updating your progress and dont give up on life.

4 06 2014
Lon Spector

It takes all kinds to make a world. You may not get who you
have your heart set on, but only a few few can get NOBODY.

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