a disturbing question: does personality actually matter?

22 02 2013

I just have to ask this disturbing question here. Often times in the media and common knowledge we often discuss “do looks matter”, knowing full well is does. Why, then, not many people ask the opposite question, “Does personality actually matter”? According to a frequent commenter on this blog, Franklin, stated that BOTH looks and personality matters in the realm of modern dating. However, the successful men in the dating game are the narcissistic, Machiavellian, and aggressive bad boys.

However, on the love-shy forums, NewHope stated that he personally  know upstanding respectable guys who does very well with women, because they are good looking as well.

In my previous post, NewHope stated that people who scores high on physical attractiveness has great power, and power corrupts. Which is why attractive people tend to be “jerks”. As many women complain,”nice guys are ugly, hot guys are jerks, hot nice guys are gay” is very true indeed.

So what exactly is the cause and effect here? Is being an asshole make you attractive to women OR hot guys can AFFORD to be asshole because they are good looking (bad boy behavior is the result of being physically attractive)

That bring me to the disturbing question on the blog:”does your personality matter in the end?”


words of wisdom, by NewHope

14 02 2013

A very interesting post by NewHope, thought its worth sharing

“Someone made a passing mention of said concept in another post and it really seems to ring true from my own experience. I’ve often gotten the feeling that women as a group do not want dating-challenged men to improve their market value, and that would certainly explain a large part of the fact that they often don’t tell the whole truth about what they want in a guy. Yes, they usually want a guy that treats them good. Yes, they usually want a guy to be funny, considerate, romantic, trustful, etc, etc. I don’t doubt that for a second. HOWEVER, they don’t want men in general to know that physical looks trumps all of the above (until they start to age and look to trap a “beta provider” into a sexless marriage, but does that even count as love? I don’t think so…). This is the primary reason why we see so many women with “jerks”. Being attractive physically can often change a guy’s personality for the worse. For one thing, power currupts. Also, people get spoiled with options and a guy that dramaticly improves his looks starts to adopt some of the same behaviors women do, but gets called an “asshole” for it – all because he now has options and acts accordingly, just like women do. Lastly, he will often see a side of women in general that they keep well hidden from the rest, and that can be quite disturbing to someone not previously accostomed to it. There is a good reason why so many physically attractive men often have some anger issues and go the extra mile to protect themselves. 

Why don’t women want the truth to be widely known? In short, it threatens their collective strategy – the biological drive to be impregnated by a hot “alpha male”, then leave a “beta male” to foot the bill. Plus, it threatens the current dating market which is heavily skewed in their favor, allowing them to fuck guys that would normally be way out of their league. Exposing the truth about what they really want in a man could lead to 2 possible scenarios.

In one scenario, the value of the vagina as a currency would crash and the number of beta providers out there would plummet because said beta providers would no longer buy into the false notion that “women are less visual than men” – which scares the hell out of them! Think for a second what this would do the the institution of marriage. Instead, most “beta” dudes would be focusing on improving their looks through any means necessary (guys will do anything for pussy) and reaping the benefits of those efforts, leaving no time nor patience for gold diggers or women who withold sex. Free drinks in the bars would be much harder to come by unless she would be willing to outright provide a service in exchange (remember, the value of the vadge as a currency would be much, much lower). In such a society, even a fat, bald, old dude could realisticly get at least a makeout in return for what would only get her to TALK to him nowadays. Essentially it all boils down to this: There would be way more good looking dudes out there than there are now, and with way more dudes now getting the milk for free, those who are unable to improve their looks would be in a position to dramaticly raise the sexual price for their resources and favors, simply due to the vastly reduced supply of beta providers. Supply and demand.

In another possible scenario, we would see a return to a more fair and traditional system centered around a reformed institution of marriage where sex before marriage is punished and adultery punished severely. I believe this would be the more likely scenario. If we study history, we find that a strong institution of marriage has been a response to unchecked female sexuality. Societies that have allowed female sexuality to remain unchecked have usually turned very violent and collapsed shortly afterward, whereas societies with a strong, MONOGAMOUS, honsest, transaction-based institution of marriage unsullied by the bullshit notion of “romantic love for everyone”, often remained stable and florished. The expectation of romantic love for everyone is actually a very recent idea, historically speaking, which became widespread only within the last 100 years. Prior to then, people were much more realistic. Romance was hoped for, but not expected.

If history is any indication, one of these scenarios WILL happen eventually. Men WILL wake up and figure out the truth eventually. There are quite a few “naturals” out there with a genuine sence of justice that know the real deal and want so-called “betas” to be in on women’s dirty little secret. Get them alone without any women around and they’ll spill the beans if they like you. As such, the smoke and mirrors women have set up WILL crumble eventually. Maybe not in the next 10 years, but possibly within the next 50. 

A society where men have limited sexual access, be it through no traditional marriage or lack of access to legalized AND AFFORDABLE prostitution, does not last very long. Men generally have very little incentive to help maintain any society that doesn’t meet their needs. MGTOW is a good example of this. The more female sexuality remains unchecked, the more those men not of the sexual elite will abandon society and actively work AGAINST it, plus the talent/skill pool will dry up, leaving a collapsed civilization in its place.

Woman’s policing of the hierarchy is a way of protecting the current status quo at your expense. They have more power and sexual choice nowadays than they ever had in history and they are willing to pull any dirty trick in the book to keep it that way. Unfortunately for them, there will come a time when their very survival depends on their willingness to accept a more fair playing field because a society where female sexuality remains unchecked simply cannot sustain itself.

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