Nerds are also to blame for making of bitchy women in this feminist society

24 11 2012

Okay, this is a short rant to get this off of my chest here. Remember my previous post on the CAD and bitch culture. While Cads do make women in our culture bitchy, so do the NERDS. I don’t doubt amongst young people, there are “good girls” out there. Then comes the dumb nerd that falls hopelessly in love with EVERY girl that’s nice to them, starting to buy them flowers, chocolate, and write them poetry, believing that this girl is the ONLY girl on the planet (oneitis syndrome), and you must have her.

Listen you dumb chump, she is nice to you because she has a good upbringing. She is nice to you because she is A NICE PERSON. And every time she’s nice to one of you chumps, you have to get all creepy and fall in love with her while she doesn’t see you that way. Now she’s afraid to be nice to any guy(unless he’s good looking) anymore because she knows you’ll act like the chumps you are.

Yes, I know you respond so much to female kindness because you’re so unused to it. Wow, there’s actually a pretty girl that DOESN’T treat me like trash… but DAMN IT, KEEP YOUR HEART IN CHECK YOU DUMB BASTARDS!!


the global rise of the bitch and cad culture, decent men are fucked unless you got the looks, from the incel’s point of view

22 11 2012

After reading a thoughtful and somewhat controversial blog post by Indomitable Thoughts and the usual brilliant reply by fschmidt, it stirred up a lot of memories. I agree with what they say about the contemporary hook up culture and nightlife, certain ideas by fschmidt did not work in my case.

Years ago when I was still going to college, before I decide to will myself to become social and get in shape, I was the reclusive introvert who spent most of my time in my dorm, studying, chatting with people online, playing video games, and my favorite activity: jacking off to fantasies. I deliberately avoided the superficial party and club scene because I felt the same way as Indomitable Thoughts on contemporary culture. Then again, because of this, I left a 60% female school  without a kiss after 5 years of being there. If I wasn’t Asian and I was better looking, maybe things might play out differently.

A few weeks for my graduation, this realization has hit me hard. I knew finding someone who would be into short chubby Asian guys like myself would not be likely. I asked my family to set me up with girls they knew. They set me up with two of them, who came to this country as students from the old country(my home city actually). It turns out the first girl said she’s not looking for anyone since she already dating someone (A Caucasian male of course), immediately I was friendzoned and she would sometimes chat and call me up to help her with her computer problems. The second girl was a real piece of work. Again we chatted online and talked on the phone a bit. When the school year started and she came to this country, I asked her if she want to meet up. I called her up once for a chat she was way too eager to excuse herself and hang up. She was obviously not into me.

Similarly, I met another Asian girl on (I was actually surprised I scored a date), and my experiences with her was the same. She even told me she felt stressful around me(a common sign for lack of physical attraction)

Think about it, my fellow nerds, why would a girl be too busy for a hot guy? If a girl is into you, she will climb mountains and cross oceans to get to you. If she is not into you, she will not care if you die in front of her. Like NewHope once said, most men never had women that attracted to them, so they wouldn’t know. All three girls I spoke of, are from a non-feminist country with conservative religious backgrounds, as all three go to Christian churches. Two of the three rejected me probably due to looks. None of them are the nightclub type, all of them new to the country, from a vastly different culture, and they rejected me just the same. I was not reject because I lack the ability to provide as I have a stable job. Its the dreaded L word that haunted me. I used to buy into the popular wisdom that its your attitude and personality that matters. I sincerely wanted to believe that because I knew looks is something I don’t have.

I knew now I have to make the effort to change, being a chubby reclusive introvert will NOT get me out of this. The nightlife/club culture is more global than most of your think. Today at me age of 27 most “decent women” have already settled down. Thus for me to actually find someone, it means I have to pick the left overs, the “slut” that’s been with a few men already, or a younger widow/divorcee. If the “bitch” tells me to fuck off, I will be incel again.

Becoming a Cad is the only option left for me. I am putting NewHope’s advice to the test. See how I do when I get a better fashion sense and NOT obese

Being Asian in America, later generation Asian Americans, the dating scene and the media

19 11 2012

It is only a matter of time before I write something like this I figure now is as good of a time as any. It always amazes me to no end the level of aggression Asians and Asian Americans have on each other in ethnic rivalry and hatred, but all falls into a deafening silence when it comes to social injustice here in the west. Most Asians believe racism against Asians is okay as long as its not directed at their ethnicity, and would probably join in. “Who are you calling a chink, I am Japanese”

It is no doubt that here in America the Asian Male is demonized, ridiculed, and unsexed. The typical Asian you see in America are usually Asian women paired with Caucasian men. the WM/AF interracial marriage is the most common on the planet. The typical Hollywood movie would always have the formula of White man goes to Asian -> white man defeats the Asian male villain -> white man gets the Asian girl. Presence of Asian males in the media is limited, usually portrayed as either effeminate or gay. Bruce Lee could not become successful in America until he returned to Hong Kong. When an Asian male is depicted as sexual, there is usually an outcry. In the film “Romeo Must Die”, a scene where Jet Li kisses Aaliyah was cut out to avoid such reaction. The iconic Asian male in American media is that of William Hung and Ken Jeong.

I read from statistics that Asian American population growth is mainly result of immigration, not sustained natively. That fact disturbed me, but didn’t particularly surprise me. Today almost 50% of Asian women in America are married (not counting dating and hooking up) to Caucasian men (not counting those that dates black and latin men). This indirectly states that more than 50% of Asian men in America are perpetually single (lets be honest about the possibility of Asian men dating outside of their race). The earlier laws of America did not intend for Asians to prosper in this country, from the mistreatment of Chinese railroad workers, Japanese American internment camps, and the Chinese Exclusion act in 1882, which outlawed the Chinese workers marrying Caucasian women (under the threat of stripping the woman of citizenship) and Chinese women were not allowed in the country unless they are prostitutes. Many of these Chinese workers married black and Native american women instead (back then Native Americans are not citizens). I have also noticed the dwindling number of Japanese Americans by the generation as well.

In the 70, 80s  and 90s, many Chinese communities in the east coast cities face a lot of harassment and persecution. The older generation invited martial arts masters from the old country to come here to protect the community, and teach the younger generation how to fight and defend themselves. The Asian Americans of older generation have persevered through hardship, but the downfall of the Asian community lies with the sell out women. If you google black or latin women, you will receive respectable sites like jobs and activism. Google asian women you will get sites like porn, or pseudo pick up artist forums where guys saying how easy asian women are, they will fuck anyone white. disturbingly, they are not that far from the truth.
Women do the choosing on the scene, and for unknown reasons most Asian women here in this country (both FOBs and American born) prefer Caucasian men (had she preferred asian men she would have stayed in Asia). Many claim that is because most Asian cultures are misogynist and chauvinistic, then why aren’t women from Muslim countries flooding to arms of whitey? I heard in Japan the women pack the buses to G.I. bars, offering sex for free. The stereotype says women are less desiring of sex, which is bs because, according to NewHope, “you would be surprised how sexually aggressive women are if she is really into you, but most men did not experience that because they are not in the 10% attractive population”.  I would guess the Caucasoid features of the blond hair and blue eyes is considered exotic, thus the Caucasian man would make a good trophy boyfriend.

I experienced this personally, at a party/event in a piano bar in Denver once. The people are mostly Caucasian, I tried to strike up a casual conversation with the only other Asian girl there, despite her being chatty to white guys at the event, her attitude to me is completely opposite. Just one word answers and always trying to excuse herself when I was trying to talk to her. It is quite obvious that we had the same ethnic background, and being the only two Asian people in the party, she had no intention of interacting with me. A few months later, I saw the same girl again among the spectators in a martial arts tournament I competed in. Lo and behold she is with a Caucasian guy, but I was the one who walked home with the medal and trophy (I won men’s sparring division)

In order for the Asian American population to sustain itself, we must break the barriers of ethnic, cultural, and religious differences. I would advocate the intermarriage and mixing of inter-asian cultures in order to create a stronger Pan Asian community, and a new AMERICAN identity. At the same time we must discourage, ostracize and punish the whore that sell out (even though it is so normal now)

playboy in the big apple, harems

15 11 2012

check out my polar opposite, the Great Paul Janka. What most desperate nerd looks and don’t see, is that maybe its this guy’s handsome looks that attracts women, not his “charm” or “swagger”.  A guy’s “confidence” goes only as far as his looks carry him. If I am as good looking as Mr. Janka here, where cute girls gives me choosing signals on a daily basis I assure you my confidence would sky rocket like no tomorrow.

You see, women don’t mind being hit on. They only mind who hits on them. If he’s a handsome stud, then he is being bold and “confident”. If he is ugly, its sexual harassment and he’s a creep.

Despite the fact that contemporary America is full of desperate, single men, vibrators for women sells very well. It shows that most women would rather fuck a mechanical device, than being with a man who is physically unattractive. Most women do not mind sharing a single womanizer with multiple other women, because it shows womanizer is desirable. Most women claim they hate womanizers.  The logically flaw here, is that those guys would not be called womanizers if women didn’t like them.

Studies has shown that the amongst typical high school graduates, girls almost have twice as much sexual experience than the boys. But wait, you ask, if the girl is having sex then there must be a guy having sex with them at the same time, correct? Of course, but all the girls are having sex with the same guy. The Highschool football quarterback knocking up the whole cheerleading squad is not that far from the truth. Where does it leave the rest of the 90% of men that doesn’t make it on the attractiveness scale? Well, the smart ones go into fitness and bodybuilding, the dumb ones go into PUA

As for real help, here are some confidence boosting exercises:

1. squats

2. burpees

3. bench press

4. muay thai training

5. boxing training

6. mma training

7. beat the shit out of your opponent

Here are some things the government can do to help:

1. government subsidize plastic surgery

2.government  subsidize gym membership, making attendance to gym legally mandatory

3. set legal limits for body fat, 15% for men, 18% for women. violators be heavily fined

4. forbid purchase of certain food for individuals above certain percentage body fat

5. reinstate adultery as a crime punishable by death

6. legalize prostitution

the nerds are looking, but not seeing, halo effect, asshole vs. nice guy

14 11 2012

In traditional conservative societies, a girl’s suitors is often hand picked by her parents or a professional match maker, instead of herself. The rules are simple, because most women by nature, have instinctive sexual attraction to men who are narcissistic, psychopathic, and aggressive. In layman’s terms, the bad boy love. This is not a myth but a fact backed up by science. This is precisely why so many women today leave one abusive relationship after another, yet they would not give the everyday nice guy a second glance, because they nice guys don’t have the masculine aggression the bad boys have. If most men in history were like the nice guys, the human race would not be here today. Death row inmates get love letters and nude photos from women they don’t even know, the nerds in the school of engineering and hackers club do not. Ted Bundy was a very good looking death row inmate, which is why he is flooded with women visitors who want to marry him.

Nice guys and stable providers has a fighting chance, through the game of LOOKS. In my opinion, the handsome nice guy beats the ugly asshole any day. Most nerds are LOOKING but they are NOT seeing. Just because you see an asshole who can get girlfriends one after another, does not mean you can get girlfriends by becoming an asshole. Just because this guy is a player, doesn’t mean he can help you become one.

those guys you see are GOOD LOOKING, thus they can afford to be an asshole and still have wave and wave of women chasing after them. A good looking guy can just to up and say hi and chat the girls up, then let her do the talking because he is good looking thus the girl WANT to talk to him.

There is also the phenomenon called “the halo effect”, where if you are good looking anything you do would be see as positive, and if you’re ugly, anything you do would be negative. Its the same principle that the hotter the girl is, the more tolerant people will be of her bitchy behavior.

initial encounter with a woman she will decide whether or not she will reject you very quickly. It is not a matter of whether or not she believes you are “a good person”, its a matter of whether she thinks “you’re sexy” or have qualities to be the FATHER OF HER CHILDREN. Badboys, know how to convey the latter part very well.

It amazes me how much some women put up for good looking bad boys, he beats her and cheats on her with her roommate, cousin, sister, mother, and best friend yet she still stay with him because it shows he is indeed desirable by others, and still have the ability to walk away. Having the ability to walk away from her is crucial, as women initiate majority of divorces, as she will feel you today, but might not feel you tomorrow. Your options must be open.

mind games and control, the story of my parents

14 11 2012

“…The girls that play games with guys they are truely attracted to are a VERY RARE MINORITY!! The idea that girls are “mysterious” about their interest is a myth perpetuated by marriage-minded women and PUA gurus – both of whom just want your money.

Before my makeover,
– women never approached me.
– I felt constantly under threat of being “nexted” for the slightest transgression if I was “lucky” enough to get a date,
– Every one of THOSE girls gave me that “I like to wait 6 months before doing anything intimate” bullshit.

After the makeover
– I get approached all the time. No more games or doubt as to their interest. Their behavior makes it blatantly obvious.
– No more feeling like I’m walking on eggshells. Not dumped for stupid, trivial shit anymore.
– I always got pussy by the 3rd date and THEY were the ones initiating it. These women came from all different walks of life and the vast majority were so-called “good girls”.

Women intentionally perpetuate those stereotypical myths because they want to be able to marry for security when they’re looks start to fade. It works like this: The common myths attempt to explain away their apparent lack of sexual interest toward the guy they’re trying to sucker into marriage. The vast, vast majority of guys that are not of the top ~20% in physical attractiveness have never seen real attraction, which is why they actually believe the bullshit. There is a damn good reason why the most attractive men are seen as poor marriage prospects!! It’s because they KNOW what REAL attraction looks like and won’t fall for any stereotypical crap.”


After reading the quote above by NewHope, it struck a serious cord that the typical mind games women play with men who they are not physically attracted to is exactly like the dynamic of my father and step-mother. I lost my birth mother at a young age to breast cancer, so their original marriage is blur to me. I was raised by my paternal grandmother and aunts and uncles in our home country. Like many stereotypical Asian families we are very stable because of the close tied with the extended inlaws (in contrary to the sexual relationship between 2 individuals here in the west).

My father came to America on a student VISA. He married my step mother here and using that as springboard to get a green card, he also intended to bring me here. Little do I know that the family environment changed for me from being in a very stable family to a very dysfunctional and volatile family here in America.

Because of my father’s foreign national status he does not have the opportunity for employment as he needs sponsorship to get a job in the field of engineering. thus he wanted to obtain green card from a marriage to my step mother. During this period, my father worked on printing press for a scientific/medical journal for minimum wage. At this time he spends most of his time at work, but he also made less money than my step mother, for which she deeply resents him for.

My step mother is the typical serious and high strung radical feminist type, in addition to being resentful of my father, she is especially resentful of me, as she had to spend time raising me, something she wants my father to reward her for, she told me, “its not us (her, her mother, and her daughter) that your father gets up in the morning and make money for, its you”

Thus as you can tell, she is at home more time than my father, but her attitude towards me depends on her relationship with my father, which was very volatile. This is precisely the reason why I am more concerned about the status of their relationship than they are.

It is quite clear to me now that my step mom is not attracted to my father physically, because she would nit-pick little things my father’s does, many unintentional, as major transgressions. For example, because I didn’t have that much clothes, one day my father went out and bought be some in a garage sale. My step mother would get angry at him and say, “you buy you son clothes, but all the years we married you didn’t buy my daughter clothes!” then her attitude towards me would become very hostile, and she would shun my father by refusing to sleep in their bedroom but sleep in my step sister’s room instead (denying him sex essentially.). She would almost always initiate the fight between them, they would not speak for weeks, my father would always be the one who initiated the reconciliation often result in bigger fight with yells and screams.

It is clear to me my father wanted their relationship to work more than my step mother did, I begged and pleaded with my father to get divorce but he wanted to make the marriage work, possibly for obtaining the green card for himself and for me, he put up with the marriage. Maybe he knew that he would not find anyone else due to his own anti-social nature. “I do things for your son and you do nothing for my daughter” is the common theme they fought about. Over the time I grew paranoid about my fathers behavior, whatever he does for me I tried to make sure he does the same for my step sister. I thought to myself, if having a relationship is this paranoia of watching out for little transgressions to continuously please your female partner, I want nothing to do with it.

The dysfunctional family I came to America to was one of the main reasons why I avoided relationships in the future. But I was not naive as I realize my own value on the sexual market as the short chubby asian kid, avoiding relationships was easy for me.

The story of my father and step mother did not stop there. When they finally separated, my step mother started to experience financial trouble as she continued to stay in the same house they bought when they were together. She was then more willing to reconcile with my father. Not after my father obtained his greencard for himself and me. Since then, he landed much higher paying engineering jobs. Afterwards the relationship between my father and step mother began to become a lot more stable, she doesn’t start fights with my father over little transgression anymore. As now my father make more money than my step mother, she now has a reason to make their relationship work, as she can now depend on my father for my step sister to go to college.

Moral of the story is, if a girl truly wants you, she will try to make it work. If she is attracted to you physically she would not manipulate you with sex. If she is not attracted to you physically, the other reason why she would want a relationship with you is economic dependence. But in today’s society most women do not rely on men, emphasis on looks is more crucial than ever. All the qualities and the paranoid watch of your little transgressions to make up for what you lack in looks is simply not worth it. If she is not attracted to you physically, and not dependent on you economically, your relationship will become volatile. For a relationship to work, it is not a question of whether or not she believes you are a “nice person” or “interesting”. Save the “unconditional love for you as an individual” for the romance novels and Asian TV dramas.

stereotypes, romantic love, and feminism

12 11 2012

Originally I plan to update this blog once a month to update my weight loss. However due to the fact that my thoughts are currently flooded with the topic of dating/relationship/sex or lack of it(incel), I just have to write more entries. 

It is often said that, “guys want only sex, girls want love and affection”. However, as the common theme of this blog conveys: conventional wisdom is often 180 degrees out of phase with reality. Those of us who had been through college and highschool will realize that there are plenty of guys who desire for sincere, and meaningful relationships but can’t get it(myself), and the promiscuous whore who gives booty calls to her “hot guy” of the week. However; such stereotype exists for a reason: Such guys who fuck and chuck and treat women like meat, are usually the typical good looking guys who are actually successful with women, thus they have options to afford the fuck and chuck. On the contrary, men who desire love and affection often come across as weak and needy thus gets rejected by women. the same women who pursue these good looking guys and got their hearts broken, thus they complain about it, but they would not give the other men a second glance.

Coming from the typical Asian upbringing, the parents always tells me to study hard in school, ignore girls and focus purely on academic subjects, where academic achievement can lead to better jobs and provide for family, and girls will come to you naturally if you have money. If we lived in conservative Confucian society, Islamic society, or Victorian England, they would absolutely be right. However; I live in contemporary America, a time of the sexual revolution, and radical feminism, those rules no longer apply.

In the past, men have always traditionally been the provider. And in many traditional societies marriages are arranged by parents. Thus most men, regardless of their physical attractiveness, had wives as long as they have the ability to provide. These women then, had the habit of marrying the provider, but cheat on their husband with more handsome and thrilling men that doesn’t have the ability to provide, but have the looks to attract. Infidelity for love had been a very common theme in romance stories since very early times in literature. For the same reason, adultery was also a crime punishable by death.

At this day and age, adultery is no longer a criminal offense, and feminist push the idea that women should enter the work force and don’t need men. without the economic reliance on men, women today are far more upfront and honest about what they want in a guy in terms of looks. Those who don’t work, would marry the money making guy, then cheat on her husband with a “hot guy” without consequence. Then possibly divorce the guy for more than half of his money due to the incredibly biases no fault family court system, then the guy is stuck paying alimony and child support for a kid probably isn’t even his.

In today’s society, it is far more advantageous to become the hot guy she would cheat on her boyfriend and husband with, than be the stable provider. However; I don’t doubt that a lot of normal girls do want a nice caring Romeo in her fantasy love story. However, this perfect guy in her romantic comedy better be played by this guy:

Zac Efron

not this guy:

William Hung

As for myself, it is fortunate beauty is made, not born. I want to broaden my options rather than wait around for the one girl who’s into short chubby Asian guys to come around. If that bitch tells me to fuck off, I would be incel again.

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